If we lived in Israel, my husband would be a “kippah sruga” (knit kippah) — he exclusively wears knit kippot on the top of his head (and combined with his trimmed beard, really looks the part).
The thing is, he doesn’t wear just any knit kippah – he wears color coordinated ones.
He doesn’t have many clothes or pairs of shoes, but kippot – that he has quite a collection of. It is definitely his vice and the key to his wardrobe. He keeps them stored in two piles, one of the ones he likes and wears regularly and another of the ones he no longer likes. When we travel, they go in their own small bag so they stay flat and don’t get creases. He definitely keeps track of them – so over Shabbat when he couldn’t find his “brown kippah” it was quite a conundrum. I told him to wear a different one which was met with resistance, just as I would have felt if I was looking for a specific hat or scarf and couldn’t find it.
As a woman, I have many ways of expressing myself through my clothes and accessories, but the same options just aren’t true for men. Kippot and ties work, but what else? Why was it weird to me that he was super insistent on this one kippah, when I can’t count the number of times I’ve searched for a specific hat, scarf, necklace or pair of shoes? Honestly, I just think its because he’s a pretty chill and casual guy so it seems funny for him to be so fixated on an article of clothing — but why should that be my initial reaction?
How do you accessorize to show off who you really are? How does the man in your life show his personality through his wardrobe?