Tomorrow is my first wedding anniversary, I know I am beyond blessed to be married to my best friend and to laugh every day. I know this sounds cliche’, but I cannot believe that I have been married for a year already. I still feel like I should be planning for my wedding or picking out something, but nope, its all done. I even have my photo album on my mantle and my ketubah hanging above it to prove it should I ever truly forget. Not that I could, because the day I married D was hands down the best day of my life. (Ask me again when I have children, I’m sure I may have to claim that I have multiple best days.)
Our wedding was a wonderful celebration of us and our love.* In fact, yesterday we received a bracha (blessing) from our Rabbi during the Torah service, and as the congregation sang “siman tov, u’mazel tov” our Rabbi turned to D and said “That was a fun wedding, lets do it again!” – which was exactly what we wanted people to say about it. D and I have a very fun and playful relationship, our wedding was definitely a reflection of what our marriage would be – which I think is very important. Even looking at photos, people who were not present are able to tell that everyone had a lot of fun and that it reflected our personalities. We were blessed to be able to have that much fun while surrounded by our friends and family, also all having a fabulous time.
Our wedding was also the official start of our Sephardekanazi life together. We had the Ashkenazi style Tisch, Bedeken, and Yichud. However, the format of the Kidushin/Eruvin (ceremony) followed a Sephardic custom which D felt connected to, and our ketubah has the Spanish-Portugese text. I had henna on my hands and feet, and D did not wear a kittle. Neither of us fasted. As we each made compromises that day, so too have we made compromises throughout this year of wedded bliss.
As much as our wedding was a reflection of our lives, so too the first year of marriage has been a reflection of our life together, so I thought I would take a few weeks of posts to reflect on some of the big (and not so big) life changes which this blessing has bestowed upon me. So far, I intend to write about my first year of marriage in general, hair covering, observing taharat hamishpaca (laws of family purity) and mikvah. If there are any other topics which you think would be interesting to include, please feel free to share them with me, I’m always happy to write what you want to read!
*Since people always ask “What would you change if you could do it over?” here are my only two answers: to have been able to have my brother home from his deployment (which I had no say in) and to have had a dress which was shorter and fuller and had sleeves attached (I love the dress I wore, however I got very hot, tore my dress in many places, had a hard time dancing without hiking it up, and was fighting with my jacket).